How To Keep A Drama Free Friendship

 Friendship is a wonderful thing,it can be fun, wild,and even scary ..YEA! You see i have quite a number of friends,the good ,fun-loving,quiet ones,and lots more ,i'm sure some of you can testify to this..lol.. am i not right?Atinuke (my cutie cute),Bunmi Omoshola-Yusuf (My BFF),Taiwo Diyaolu-Bamgbade(my love),Ikeoluwa and Kenny( unbreakable besties),Yetunde Adelaja( my sis from another mam),Seyi Ogundipe (My never a dull moment paddy), Adekitan (my darling)Vivian Pedro( my paddy), Bisoye(cool calm one) if i keep on with the names ehh,won't finish in days lol..Bukky, Lawal,Bukky Jibodu,Edna, and my surest paddy of all Emmanuel Gbenebuchie.

So back to our gist,Friendship can sometimes be messy ( not dramatic) most especially with ladies, i have heard a lot of ladies say 'oh i preffer to have male friends to female, oh i can't deal with ladies...some even go as far as '' Oh God bless me with a male boss..YEAH..i'm sure some of you can relate to this.


I try as much as possible to avoid dramas in friendship and you know what? have remained drama free 'wink'

DROP IT 
It is not all friendship that should pass stage one ( hello -hi kinda friendship)If you have a friend who does nothing other than backstabbing, blackmailing/gossiping/betraying their friends .. DROP IT like a hot plate !i know well that some ladies no matter how you try to drop or avoid them they keep coming back..let me share with you my recent experience with few new friends,friend A would come to me to say all sort about friend B,from day 1 i saw a red flag but i got carried away and moved on with the friendship,but you know what? Each time friend A brings up a topic about friend B,I never said a word rather i advice her to confront her if she's having issue with her...guess what? this same Friend A has been gossiping,backstabbing me to friend B (do you get the gist) full gist for another post lol..


MAINTAIN HEALTHY BOUNDARIES.
Know that a good friend will always be there when you need them regardless of distance,but do not let that become a foundation you build your life on, Don’t ever elevate a friendship too high,  I’ve been put in that position too many times and it never ends good. Friends can be life-breathing and all things good for your soul, but if they’ve taken over the most important position in your life, you will have a hard time bouncing back when that person disappoints you.Let there be space,DO NOT let any friendship take over other important things in you life.

DO NOT JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS 
Don’t jump to conclusions. When you have more than one friend ,there are chances there will be more misunderstandings,RELAX! don't get worked up unnecessarily,don't conclude on what A is telling you about B,take your time and study both or your friend didn’t text you back or answer your question? Maybe their cell phone wasn’t working properly or they never got your message! This has happened to me on more than one occasion.

 BE OPEN TO CORRECTIONS AND FORGIVE
No one is perfect! you need to accept corrections when in a healthy friendship and when your friend does wrong you, choose forgiveness over grudges. Forgive them first, even before (or if!) they ask for it.

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